Maria Davidson

This ventilation does nothing but disguise what is happening inside one. This ventilation is so difficult because with anger we're downloading and defending, on the other hand, although the expression of underlying emotion is much more mature and productive, in principle will produce in us the feeling of vulnerability. (And some of us may wonder: on top of that I am furious with him/her'll you give the advantage of being vulnerable?). In many personal encounters, the attacker is left with the lion's share when you have the apparent honesty express wrathful. (While that ventilation can alleviate it to him or her, you can also leave his victim in a State of insecurity, or putting on the defensive). When one knows that the ira is the fog that rises from other feelings in conflict, total honesty is to communicate your first emotion. We need to be deeply honest with ourselves and see that most of the anger is simply guilt that emanates when causes it weakness of the another.

We can also change the idea to not allow others offend us. Feeling offended is a choice. We can feel hurt, but there is a big difference between being hurt and feel offended. Being hurt is to have hurt feelings, it hurts for awhile, but feeling offended is choosing to act based on that wound answering same, putting hand, leaving, complaining with others or judging which made the offense. Most of the time the offenses are not intentional. Even when they are intentional, we can remember that forgiving, like love, is a verb.

It is the choice of move of reactivity to proactivity. But ultimately all this so we can avoid if not we take things personally, if we do this exercise, will be much easier to learn how to handle anger and realize that it is better to live well.